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    I can sympathise to some extent - attended my first consultation with a Relate councillor this evening with my wife of 27 years. Hopefully she will agree to go forward with counselling and we can find a way forward. Thankfully our kids are a lot older than yours, but still not easy.

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    I propsed councilling at the outset. She saw no reason.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kickback View Post
    I propsed councilling at the outset. She saw no reason.
    If she is having second thoughts on separation, now might be the time to bring it up again. Best of luck.

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    It may be but I've had such an emotional kicking of late, and the obvious vitriol spouted at me, I'm not sure I want to put myself up for that again.

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    Some things once said can't be taken back sadly
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    This thread just backs up my premise that whilst there is nothing better than a good marriage there's nothing worse than a bad one. Luckily for me I have been married for 28yrs, this year & our daughter is 26yo & chose to live in the UK, whilst we still live in Belgium.
    I can't say after the couple of bliss yes, that we have had an 'easy' one since & whilst I always swore I would never leave or divorce my wife, if the other party gives up & calls in the lawyers, there's little you can do these days, especially if there refuse to go to counselling. I do believe mediation is compulsory now before a divorce in the UK.
    Concentrate on maintaining the best relationship you can with you daughters & ensuring the best access to them. When they grow up they will make their own minds up & hopefully still want you in their lives. Avoid neg comments against their mother, although this will be hard.
    Look after your our mental well being & sadly getting in touch with lawyer of your own is probably advisable. You can attend Relate on your own & this may help you come to terms with the situation.
    Most of all, keep in touch with us on here, we'll be looking out for youˇ
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    Just reading this and Ive just been hit with the same thing from my wife.. life currently sucks big time

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    I'm really sorry to hear that Dave. Look after yourself.

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    All the best Dave.

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    thanks chaps, its hard but we are going to separate and live apart for a while (still a huge ball ache to uproot my life) but over the last few days I have realised we both need this not just her and if we are to work out down the line then this probably is needed now.

    I am still working my mind on the basis that thats it its over and now I need to look after me for a bit and work on me for a bit.

    I hope everyone else dealing with this at the moment stays strong and can work things out

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