Separation

[mrnutt]

Wise words Donald, Im glad to hear you have come out the other end of your tunnel and are looking at life in a better way now.

Just trying to keep my chin up, look towards the positives and move forward.Not had a cigar yet but once im in the new place I shall be toasting one up then

[dmacleod28]

Been there and done that. I hit the bottle amongst other things and wasted a good year of my life until I finally seen sence! I lost alot of friends and almost lost my family! Worst thing to do is blame your self when it is nothing you have done.

Because I never had the right head on and was on another planet at the time I signed over everything to her even signed stuff saying some of her debt was mine crazy I know but at that point i was in a dark place and didn't give a f@?k

Dont do what i did!

Hold your head up high, light a cigar and carry on! All will sort it self out and in the long run you will find happiness again



Hope this made sense


Smoke on!


Donald

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[mrnutt]

All people care about in London is money.

Seemingly so, but through some work, we've got the landlord to agree to everything we wanted so this is a good move in the right direction, won't believe it until I have a signed contract mind

[Kickback]

All people care about in London is money.

[mrnutt]

Seemingly the agents here don't care about guarantors and outside money, only what you earn... makes things quite hard

[Simon Bolivar]

London referencing?

[mrnutt]

well it looks like I have found a new place to live....now to get through London referencing which is looking a total ball ache

[grumpybaldy]

Sounds like a herf's in order...

[mrnutt]

Things just got worse.
After a valentines day where everything was my side with no effort from her, putting us back on shaky ground. Her mum suddenly died. Mental health shot to pieces.
Such a bad year so far.

i can really sympathise with this, my wife lost an auntie in early Jan and a family friend is on the very edge with Kidney failure. Fingers crossed for you [MENTION=13469242]Kickback[/MENTION]

As for the Ross and Rachel idea, this is a possibility - we met to chat over the weekend and we are both on the same page about things which is good and there is still love there but that time apart is what she needs now and on relfection I need as well.

Started the new home hunt this week and have an offer in on a flat locally as she wants me to stay nearby and I think staying nearby is worth it with work etc.

Its all pretty shit and i'm losing everything but I can make it through and i'm lucky to have amazing friends and family and also forums like this - the power of cigars is an amazing thing

[ha_banos]

Oh blimey. When it rains it pours. Hope you can weather the storm and it passes quickly now.

[Kickback]

Things just got worse.
After a valentines day where everything was my side with no effort from her, putting us back on shaky ground. Her mum suddenly died. Mental health shot to pieces.
Such a bad year so far.

[PeeJay]

thanks chaps, its hard but we are going to separate and live apart for a while (still a huge ball ache to uproot my life) but over the last few days I have realised we both need this not just her and if we are to work out down the line then this probably is needed now.

I am still working my mind on the basis that thats it its over and now I need to look after me for a bit and work on me for a bit.

I hope everyone else dealing with this at the moment stays strong and can work things out

Just remember Ross and Rachel if you have any desire to get back together

[mrnutt]

thanks chaps, its hard but we are going to separate and live apart for a while (still a huge ball ache to uproot my life) but over the last few days I have realised we both need this not just her and if we are to work out down the line then this probably is needed now.

I am still working my mind on the basis that thats it its over and now I need to look after me for a bit and work on me for a bit.

I hope everyone else dealing with this at the moment stays strong and can work things out

[grumpybaldy]

All the best Dave.

[moteyi]

I'm really sorry to hear that Dave. Look after yourself.

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